In response to my post about HyundaiCard I received the response I was waiting for. I knew sooner or later I would be asked something akin to why I don’t just leave if I don’t like it. Unfortunately, the responses of “Why don’t you just leave” or “Why are you still living here,” or something similar are actually insulting to Jeju and Korea. I received a comment from “anonymous” today.
“Anonymous” sent the following short comment to my story on HyundaiCard:
Why do you still live here?
“Anonymous” asks a common question/comment that is often made to anyone who complains about something in Korea. “Anonymous’” question reminds me of those immigrants who are told to go back to where they came from if they dare to complain about something in the U.S. or Canada or Auzzie Land or etc, etc, etc.
What is funny is these same people, who rightfully find such comments ridiculous in their own countries, will see no problem making them when they live in Korea and read anything critical of “The Land of the Not Quite Right.” A tad bit hypocritical me thinks.
To answer the question directly (not that it matters): I have too much invested here and care too much to simply pack up and move.
I am reminded of something I heard once during a teacher training class. The presenter stated that the worst thing that can happen to a student is that a teacher stops bugging them for not studying, or not doing their homework, etc. When the teacher stops badgering the student it really means the teacher no longer cares about the student. The student has become hopeless and not worth the effort in the teachers mind. It is a tragedy for both of them.
To use the above as an analogy, if I stop bitching about the blatant and ridiculous discrimination by certain people and institutions on Jeju and/or in Korea, it means I no longer care about Jeju and/or Korea. It means my hope, that Jeju and Korea can realize their potential, is dead.
The common excuse "Well, that's just Korea. If you don't like it you should leave." really means Jeju and Korea are not worth caring enough about to bitch.
If I didn’t care about how the actions of KB and Hyundai directly affect Korea’s ability to become “international,” I wouldn’t bitch.
If I didn’t care that Korea routinely ranks at the bottom of surveys about foreigner quality of life in Asia, I wouldn’t bitch.
If I didn’t care about the young people in Korea, I wouldn’t bitch about the education system here.
If I didn’t care about how Jeju and Korea are viewed by the outside world I wouldn’t bitch about how migrants and immigrants are treated.
If I didn’t care about how foreigner teachers are regarded on the island, I wouldn’t bitch when I see one acting like a horse’s ass.
If I didn’t care about the quality of hospital care for all people on Jeju, I wouldn’t bitch about doctors, nurses and hospitals.
If I didn’t care I wouldn’t say anything because I know I’d eventually hear “Well, if you don’t like it leave” or something along those lines.
I hope this clears it up. And, I will continue to get pissed and bitch – because I care about Jeju, Korea, other foreigners, students, etc. If you don’t like what I have to say, you don’t have to read the blog. That may sound a bit harsh, but it’s true. We all have the choice to read or to not read what we want.
If you’d rather read stuff that is better suited for a tourism brochure, and will just blow cyber smoke up your butt, this blog is definitely not the place for you. I will tell it like I see it – the good and the bad.
I will not sugar coat anything just because it might hurt someone’s feelings or violate someone’s warped sense of national pride. I will not sugar coat anything just because it offends some person’s ridiculous idea of “cultural awareness.” I will not sugar coat anything to suit this or that reader who may not like what I have to say. I care too much to sugar coat anything.
Enough about that. “Anonymous,” thanks for the comment. I now have to get back to writing my next post bitching about (
fill in the blank).
Take care.
LOJ